I know gay marriage is a hot topic, but it shouldn't be. We have far more fish to fry in this country. Did you know that just 2.9% of Americans older than 18 identify as either lesbian, gay, or bisexual? Even if you factor in the folks who are reluctant to admit their sexual orientation, the figure still doesn't come close to way the media represents it. The media force gay marriage down Americans' throats as if there's some huge conspiracy against gay people in this country.
Personally, gay marriage is like the issue of abortion. I have feelings about it, but it's not something that gets me all riled up. I believe when it comes to these matters, the people -- via the states -- must decide.
Still. I couldn't help but be distracted by Oprah's program. I was actually flipping channels after the end of the only show I do catch during the day -- Barefoot Contessa on Food Network -- and stood there somewhat mesmerized. I tried really hard to be non-judgmental. I tried really hard to look at these two women -- one of whom is clearly a lesbian and one of whom is clearly not (just as I predicted Ellen's former love, Anne Heche, wasn't) -- like they were just another happily married couple. After all, that's what the media tells Americans homosexuals are: just like the rest of us.
They are not just like the rest of us.
Which doesn't mean we shouldn't be tolerant of gay people -- and by that I mean respectful. Quite frankly, homosexuality makes sense to me. To me, it stands to reason that 100% of any population won't come out exactly the same. It makes sense that there will always be people who get too much testosterone or too much estrogen. But there's very little concrete proof (that I'm aware of) about the whole nature/nurture issue re homosexuality. I just happen to believe some people are born gay.
But just because most people have a different reaction to watching Ellen and Portia get married than they do watching a man and a woman get married doesn't make them bigoted. You're just not going to see tears in viewers' eyes as they watch a woman walk down the aisle looking lovingly at...another woman. You're just not.
But that was Oprah's reaction, of course -- which demonstrates a clear bias toward gay marriage. Personally, I don't care what Oprah believes. But many people do -- which has the effect of making some people feel as if there's something wrong with them if they don't get that "Aw" feeling.
And that I do have a problem with.
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