I got married at the grand ole age of 59 to the love of my life... at our Marriage ceremony I read this written by Walter Rinder... "What is Love?" Love is just not looking at each other and saying, "You're wonderful." There are times when we are anything but wonderful. Love is looking out in the same direction. It is linking our strength to pull a common load. It is pushing together towards the far horizons, hand in hand. Love is knowing that when our strength falters, we can borrow the strength of someone who cares. Love is a strange awareness that our sorrows will be shared and made lighter by sharing; That joys will be enriched and multiplied by the joy of another. Love is knowing someone else cares--that we are not alone in life.
Thank you for this.
Honestly, I agree we need to work on our marriages and not throw in the towel at the first sign of an imperfection...or the second or the third. But a string of affairs is greater than an imperfection and no wonder these still caused angst even for the perpetrator (if I recall the movie correctly) and even after years of amends. The passion of the moment can cause hours, days, years of damage. I've been thinking a lot about divorce, particularly as the traditional Anglican communion moves toward a union of sorts with Rome. Generally, I'm against divorce, and I certainly don't think a divorce should be no fault. That's just too quick, too easy, too harmful to families. But I know some who have divorced because of flagrant infidelity or lack of support (financial), and who have made solid second marriages. I can't see that as wrong. I know another case where the woman faithfully remains married (lovelessly) to a man who does not support her or their children because she believes she made a contract with God for life. Practically speaking, this diminishes her, harms the children, and puffs him up. I believe she should have walked out the door years ago. What do you think?
I agree with everything you said. And, absolutely, a string of affairs is non-negotiable.