It was great meeting you today. I haven't stepped foot on a college campus in 20 years! It was interesting, to say the least.
I waited for you after Ms. Valenti's lecture because I was so moved by your courage. As you saw, Ms. Valenti wants you to think casual sex is harmless. I can see that you know otherwise -- and you're more than 10 years younger than she is!
More importantly, that you sat in a lecture hall with several hundred people and spoke the unpopular speaks volumes about where you are headed in life. I'm sorry you were disappointed with Valenti's talk -- that you didn't realize what she stood for prior to going in. Now that you've sat through her leftist garbage, allow me to offer you something to support your views. It's an Amazon review of Ms. Valenti's book, The Purity Myth -- written by a 22-year old young woman named Amy. It should make you feel great about what you did this morning.
Congrats on being you.
I am a young woman (I'm 22), and I have no hidden agenda. I think there is a big problem with casual sex. Biologically speaking, women are physically and emotionally more vulnerable to casual sex than men (but they don't hear about that in sex education or women's studies).
The feminists in the schools and universities do women a big disservice by trying to pursuade young women that to be liberated they have to embrace the casual sex ethic. They push to promote "safe sex", with no information on the emotional consequences.
But the studies show that most women regret casual sex and wish they had abstained or waited longer. Increased sexual permissiveness amongst young women has lead to a 'hook up' culture and a mental health crisis of rising STD's and emotional damage to young women who end up used and discarded--often many times.
Jessica's book "The Purity myth" is counterproductive in that she tries to claim there is no issue with young women sleeping around. I think what she means is that she likes casual sex, but many women hate it, and many end up deeply regreting casual sex, and resenting the men who take advantage of them. Teenage girls need to hear better instructions and standards about sex from those they look up to and trust (their parents and teachers).
A lot of men will do anything for casual sex, they invent a whole different personality. It can be devastating for a girl to realise that the man she gave her body to merely saw her as a warm place to masturbate with. When I was a teen, I agreed to casual sex with men, based on the information I got from my parents and teachers - I thought I was choosing the "liberated" path - but I ended up confused and hurt. Now I realise the truth is that casual sex is akin to being treated as an unpaid whore. We should be teeling teen girls to get men to take them out and buy them things before they go to bed with a man. The pro casual sex feminists are women's worst enemy. It's not liberating to get used as an unpaid whore. Casual sex is pro-men, not pro-women. When women give sex freely, men get what they want (sex) and are left to dictate the terms of the relationship, while the woman is left relatively powerless. People forget the ease at which men can seperate sex and love, and that men have a higher sex drive. And due to fertility concerns, many women want to begin their family earlier than men do. All these things make casual sex harmful to women, at least impractical to most women out there.
In the end, it might be fashionable to say men and women are the same when it comes to sex, but real life has definitely taught me differently.
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